Howdy! (30 years in Texas will get you saying things like “howdy”),

Welcome to The Beare Truth Newsletter.

We have been handed a lie; “Hard work is the answer.” There is so much survivor mentality bullshit in that statement. We have to find that authentic rhythm that is fun for us. Satisfaction and financial stability will follow.

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Let’s dive in.

Here’s another idea that will wear you out; “Work hard to make money.” First of all, we don’t need to “make” money, it already exists. Do you think that’s a small detail? It is not. We have been convinced that we - on our own - are the ones who “make” abundance.

We think we have to push, shove, sweat, toil, scramble, work hard, and “make it.” We have to get somewhere and then we’ll be ok and secure. This is a recipe for misery and poverty.

Whether it seems airy-fairy or not, there is a spiritual component to this abundance thing. We have to open to the bigger picture. Our ideas and plans are great but doing it on our willpower alone eliminates access to a greater source which is required for sustainable growth.

Even if you happen to get a pile of cash by struggling, you’ll be stressed out with a scowl and furrowed brow just trying to hold on to it all. There’s another way.

The great and wealthy artist, Dolly Parton said, “Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.”

Consider

“The primary difference between a rich person and a poor person is how they manage fear.” — Robert Kiyosaki

We have to heal the fear, shame, and old messages that drive this delusional mindset. Once we start our recovery and begin to let go of trying to control everything, we begin to access an energy that was previously unknown.

Trauma is generational. We get a lot of ideas and anxieties from our original caregivers. We think it’s ours - until we start to unpack and offload.

My early learnings about money came from survivors of war and the great depression. My Dad told me that a hundred-dollar bill just was not a thing in his life - there weren’t any. He worked for 45 years in the cold until his hands were permanently numb. My folks internalized a level of survival fear I’ve never known. But I grew up in it and have the fear in my guts and the messages of lack in my mind. I have had to do a lot of grief work to release the tension in my body.

It has been a process of letting go of the long list of negative messages I carry about wealth, money, and twisted ideas of success. It is possible to play and get paid for it. This was an almost blasphemous idea in my family of origin and is pervasive in our capitalistic, corporate-driven culture.

After quite a few years of deep healing and offloading useless messages about money, I get paid well for doing what is fun for me. I have developed the ability to notice when I’m doing shit that just doesn’t feel right, and to stop doing it! (I wrote a book about it).

Hanging out with people who regularly do trauma-release work and visioning of their authentic life is required for this process. We can have fun in this life. Finding that sweet spot where we bring value to the world while having a blast is the key.

Many of us think we’re “not worthy.”  This is a universal result of trauma. As we do the work with others on the empowerment path, our self-worth grows. Bringing value to the world is a natural result of letting go of fear and shame, and accessing our internal sense of value, 

An Affirmation:

Today, I am noticing what lights me up. I am letting go of messages that limit my creative expression and prosperity. I am doing the deep healing required to accept my worth. I am bringing value to the world and wealth is a natural part of my life.

Solutions

1. Upgrade your prosperity process: Get a coach. Find someone who knows about psychodynamics (unconscious motivation) and who is doing inner work. Community programs that focus on financial and creative empowerment are Underearners Anonymous and Debtors Anonymous

2. Upgrade your healing process: Find a body-oriented trauma healer. Get in an experiential group. Heal your inner child. A community group that focuses on inner healing is Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA). Consider The Deep Waters Experience or another of the programs on this list: Recovery and Trauma Resources.

3. Read my book: I wrote a book that addresses all of this. Stop Doing Sh*t You Don’t Want to Do: A Straightforward Guide to Letting Go of Unresolved Trauma

4. Pay attention to your language: The messages you tell yourself about work and money are neon signs. “I have to” and “I can’t” are the biggest blocks. These point directly to previous experiences that conditioned us.

1. What comes up when you hear the word “Fun”?

2. What comes up when you hear the word “Money”?

3. What were you taught about hard work, fun, and money?

4. How have you held yourself back from following what you love?

5. What healthy moves have you made to live a more authentic life?

6. What do you know you need to be doing to access your joy and gifts?

Creativity, spirituality, and sexuality are the same energy. We can feel physically attracted to our life, our work, and especially our creative expression. When we hit that intersecting sweet spot it rings a loud and satisfying bell.

It takes support. Reach out and connect with healthy people on the path of creativity and prosperity.

Take good care of yourself. Please reply to this email with your comments.

Warmly,

Bob

P.S. Share your process of healing with us! We'd love to hear your stories and insights. Connect on social media (see links above and below), and PLEASE REPLY TO THIS EMAIL with your comments! Your participation helps us all connect in this community. And let us know if you don’t want it published - otherwise, we sure will.

P.P.S. I need your help. The new book STOP DOING SH*T YOU DON’T WANT TO DO is out now! Get it here. Read or just browse the book and write a great review here.  And, the Audiobook version is now available on Spotify, Google Play, and Libro! It is coming soon to other platforms! THANK YOU!!!

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