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I'm hosting a free live webinar on June 30th called the Connected Healing Webinar and I'd love for you to join me. Save your spot here.

In this week’s edition:

• The relentless external search

• Why we avoid looking within

• Finding the buried emotions

• Returning to this moment

I’m not kidding when I say I had no idea how to look within.

In fact, I didn’t know there was a within.

Until the pain became so great, there was no drug to fix it.

I was forced to look at what my wife and therapists were begging me to see;

Myself.

The relentless outside search

There is no greater tragedy than a life lived externally.

It’s a living death.

Our experience of life happens within our bodies, yet most of us spend our days focused somewhere else.

We obsess over what other people think.

We complain about the world.

We scroll.

We chase relationships, jobs, money, and approval.

We try to fix everyone around us.

And all the while, we leave our bodies and go into our heads to figure everything out.

I know that life.

I lived it for years and missed large sections of my life.

Why we avoid looking within

Our culture rewards external solutions.

We love diagnoses.

We love quick fixes.

We love anything that promises relief without requiring us to face what hurts.

Big Pharma, Big Alcohol, and Big Sugar have all figured this out.

There is a lot of money to be made helping us escape ourselves.

I'm angry about it.

Many of us spend years trying to medicate our distress without understanding it.

We become experts on other people and strangers to ourselves.

Eventually, some of us hit a wall.

We get desperate enough to turn our attention inward.

Finding the buried emotions

I am fortunate to spend time with people who make inner work part of their lives.

Many of us nearly died from our obsession with the external world.

As we unpack our trauma stories and look honestly at the ways we tried to hide from pain, we begin to discover something simple.

The emotions are in the body.

These days we call it somatic work.

There is growing scientific support for what many of us have experienced personally.

Trauma leaves its mark.

It shapes our reactions and our relationships.

It influences how we move through life.

My professional experience and my own life have convinced me that healing requires turning toward what we have spent years avoiding.

Returning to this moment

The grief we avoided for so long begins to move.

Support becomes essential.

We spend time with people who are willing to tell the truth and feel what they feel.

Over time, the nervous system settles.

Something opens.

We become more available to life.

Not to the life we imagine in our heads, but to the one unfolding right here.

This moment is where life happens.

And this moment is all we've ever had.

Here, now,

Bob

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