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In this week’s edition:

• How to love yourself

• How to love yourself

• How to love yourself

Today’s newsletter is short.

I have a powerful gift for you.

It’s all about loving yourself well. 

And yes, it’s become an annoying cliché. 

Everybody’s saying to “Just love yourself.”

BUT IT’S THE HARDEST THING I’VE DONE.

And it’s the key to everything you want in your life.

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.”

– Hafez

We’re hoping for the special relationship that will take us to where we want to be.

Maybe that job, or a certain amount of money, or some magical happening will get us there.

We try to punish ourselves toward success. We whisper terrible things to ourselves that we would never say to a loved one.

This is why we stay stuck and repeat all the negative patterns in our lives.

We are parenting ourselves poorly. We are stuck in unconscious patterns.

We’ve been looking “out there” for the solutions. I know this well. I’ve tried it repeatedly.

I’ve been working on this problem for 25 years and have made some progress.

Amazingly, I am no longer being dragged around by those worn-out messages.

I’m not cured, my friend. But I have learned a few things.

I’ve discovered some powerful tools for treating myself well and getting what I want out of this life.

Re-Parenting Yourself is a free 5-day email course. It’s a gentle invitation to self-empowerment.

You’ve been on this path with me for a while, and I want you to have it.

I promise that if you do the full five-day course, you will see immediate changes in your confidence and self-care.

That’s the promise.

Here’s the premise:

I’m from a good family. 

Many of us can say that.

Hard working. Good values. Good people.

But even the “good” families have dysfunction. And it causes trauma.

The “good” families are often the most dysfunctional. All of the anxiety, anger, and abuse is hidden behind niceness, codependent relationships, over-parenting, under-parenting, enabling, and a variety of addictions - mostly hidden.

That’s how it was in my family of origin. 

I was over-parented by my mom. Good woman. No blame. 

But she bailed me out of everything, and I learned that bad behavior had no consequences. Many sh*tshows to follow.

I was emotionally under-parented by my dad. He was a product of the Great Depression and WWII. Good man. No blame.

He was a very tough guy, I idolized and idealized him, and learned to shut down every emotion. It cost me a lot, especially in relationships.

These dynamics are common - even encouraged. “What a good mom, so caring.” “What a strong man, your dad.”

You have your own story. 

If you experienced severe abuse, you already know where your work lies.

But we all have conditioning to overcome, severe or subtle.

If we want to break free from our self-destructive patterns, we have to look within.

Let’s stop making excuses, stop blaming, start looking at reality, and start healing. 

Our most authentic life is waiting for us. 

I hope you enjoy this free, gentle, and powerful course. 

Just click HERE - and you’re in!

Lots of love,

Bob